
It’s nice to have a close group of girlfriends. Thank heaven that i have 2 very close girl cliques. The most ‘headache’ comes when we have our annual girlish events that falls on/have a purpose such as:
- Christmas day
- Somebody’s birthday (not mine of course)
- Valentine’s day
- Friendship anniversary
- Weddings!
Many a times, i have to crack my small brain on what to get for my friends as presents. Girls are well equipped with thousand and one things. From shoes, accessories, to cool IT gadgets and fashionable clothes. So what else do they really lack of??
Somehow or another, I’ve managed to get the “perfect” gift for my friend… after some intense headache.
Here are some of my personal tips, it works for me for a few years, so i thought of sharing with you:
Tip 1## Don’t ever buy a gift which you yourself will not use

I remembered the day when i got married. My girl cliques showered me with wonderful gifts and cards. Yes yes, many people will tell me, ‘C’mon girl, don’t be so fussy with the gifts, it’s the thoughts that count!’ If out of 20 good friends, i got 15 figurines/photo frames as a wedding present, you call this ‘a nice thought’? I could just walk into a shopping mall, move to the section with ‘Wedding gifts’ as category, grab a figurine/photo frame and ta-da, i’ve got my friend a wedding gift.
Have you ever thought about your poor friend (the receiver of present), who might have a display problem in her new home? Did you really make an effort to take a peak at her new home decor? Let me tell you, my home decor and renovation has everything except display shelves. So you tell me what will happen to the figurines/photo frames that were given to me?
Tip 2## Be more observant to your friends’ shopping behaviour
So it’s time for our girly shopping trips down to places like Suntec or Orchard. Don’t just stare and hunt for your favourite clothes or accessories. Assist your friends in choosing their choice of clothes or whatever. Observe the colors/design that they love, observe things they yearn to buy but not enough cash for the day. These are little clues for your next gift hunt.
I missed this important point once and i felt so helpless when my friends approach me for advice.
Tip 3## Be a good listener and not always the ‘I, Me’ conversations.
When communicating with your friends over lunch or meals, always make it a point to allow time for your friends to talk about themselves. It might not be as effective as Tip 2 but it sure has it’s own plus points.
Tip 4## Play a little game to make it less obvious
Sometimes one week before christmas day, my friends and i will play a little game called, ‘My Wish List’ where we wrote pieces of wishes on small papers and paste it on a christmas tree. This will make it less obvious since everyone is writing it down. Who knows you will find friends who wrote more than one! That’s enough for you to buy a few years of presents for them.
Tip 5##Research
If all else fails, here’s the second last attempt. DO your research. There are many resources out there. Here’s a list:
- Approach the friend’s family (bro, sis, parents)
- Ring up the boyfriend
- Check out their Friendster, Facebook accounts for hints
- Search the net for practical gifts for her (though still may not be what your friend wants, but at least it’s practical in one way or another)
Tip 6##Food is the best gift in the world
Okay. I gave up. I have NOTHING in my brain after going through the first few steps. What i can do now is:
- Treat my friend to a nice and unforgettable meal
- Buy a nice cake for her (be it wedding, anniversary, birthday or christmas)
- Buy chocolates
That’s all i can share with you folks. I hope you will have a better idea on how to chose the almost perfect gift for your close friends. Let me know if you have better ideas!